Monday, September 29, 2008

Goodbye to my couch...





Sorry for all the pictures, but please allow me to reminisce and grieve a little :(
I am sitting now in the middle of my living room floor surrounded by - well - nothing. We finally succombed to the worn-out,ugly couch syndrome and have ordered a new couch, oversized chair and ottoman for our living room. The delivery company practically guaranteed it would be delivered tonight, but - you guessed it - they didn't show. (Said their truck broke down??)

I must admit that we have had our current living room suit for almost 10 years. And, I am mighty pleased with the new chocolate brown microsuede set coming. However, I must also admit that at about 2:30 a.m., I woke up realizing that this would be the last night that I would be able to sleep on my old one. So, I got up quietly and came into the living room alone - really - I did! Michael was sound asleep so I laid down on the couch and tried to fall asleep, but floods of memories came back to my mind. I know - many of you are laughing hideously at me at this moment - but you have to understand...we've been through some serious stuff on this couch!

I remembered the time I went with my friend Michelle to shop for this couch 10 years ago. I suppose it was sort of an impulse purchase during a tough time of sorrow in my life. (Whatever possessed me to buy a red, plaid couch? Michelle, why didn't you stop me?) Well, anyway, it was the one I loved at the time and somehow it allowed us to change something in our home and feel like we were starting a fresh, new chapter in our lives.

I remember sitting on that couch and crying almost incessantly over the deaths of my two biological children. I remember watching UK basketball games with my hubby on that couch. I remember laying many, many nights to read and study the Word - many nights I experienced special times with the Lord on that couch. I remember sitting and staring at 10 different Christmas trees from that couch and anticipating Christmas morning with my children the last 6 years. It has been my "quiet time" place for years. I remember sitting on that couch to have long phone conversations with my sister. I remember my parents and in-laws sitting on that couch and playing with my children. I remember my shear delight in finding lost items in the cushions. I remember sitting on the far right side of the couch the night that Michael told me that he was completely on board to adopt internationally. I remember collapsing on that couch many days after working hard all day. I remember always trying to find ways to make that couch look right in my home - but in the end - what can you do with red plaid? I remember sleeping on that couch with my children when they were sick or afraid. I remember sleeping on that couch while Michael was on mission in Haiti so I could be closer to my children and as far away from our bedroom as I could be while he was gone. I remember Michael taking naps on that couch on Saturday mornings while the kids watched a movie. I have seen all three of my children come home to play, sleep, sit, snack, read, snuggle and watch t.v. on this couch .

Michael always says that I can put words to anything and make it sound relevant. Please don't misunderstand me. I don't worship this couch. But, at times like this, I find it easy to reflect on where our lives have been the last 10 years or so. The couch is now in the garage and we hope to find it a good home. I anxiously await my chocolate brown microsuede set.


But, I must say that I don't expect the new couch to carry the weight the old one did.


Red plaid will always hold a special place in this heart!

Sunday, September 28, 2008

On this Sunday, we are thankful for...

-...my Christian friends...what would I do without you? I am incredibly, unworthily blessed with an overabundance of good friends who love me just the way I am, believe in me even when I am wrong, and enjoy me for who I am.
-...brothers - the bond that I never was able to experience having had only one female sibling. I now realize that the bond pervades all relational boundaries. They are brothers through thick and thin. There is nowhere they would rather be than with each other - though if you ask them they may say otherwise.
Where one is, there is the other - so handsome!
...beautiful smiles and relaxing days outside. It is absolute one of the best things to watch your children enjoy each other. They may bicker from time to time, but my children mostly smile when they are together. And, they truly do enjoy being together. Abby lights up when her brothers come around. She says, "My Boys!!" And, they absolutely adore her. They love to help her do "big girl" things, like climb up the swingset ladder, ride her Dora car, or play with her toys. When she succeeds with potty training issues, they are happier for her than anyone in the house, I think.
...books.
I love to read...have to do it every day.

Thursday, September 25, 2008

Seasonal gift...

There is so much in my life that is yet to be shared - so much that I am often overwhelmed and have difficulty deciding what is blog-worthy. But, often I find that many of you share with me something that touched you that pehaps others were not as affected by...thereby, the hodge-podge of blogging material. Tonight is no exception...

At work, we have been celebrating National Rehab Week. I don't often refer to my career in my blog because although I love what I do and try to give 110% to it while I am there, it is only one small part of who I am. However, I have been an occupational therapist since 1996 and am pleased to have been employed the last (almost) six years in long-term care. I truly feel blessed to have been provided with this great opportunity close to my home to work with the elderly of my community. But, I also must admit that it is often an emotionally and physically challenging work environment. So, it is nice to take a week to celebrate your accomplishments with your colleagues. Our administrator was kind enough to take us all out for a great afternoon lunch yesterday. I had gifts for all of the team, however they also surprised me with a purely delightful thank you gift that I had to share with you...right down my alley. I love primitive decor and they gave me these delightful fall pumpkins from Demdaco. And - you just can't beat Candleberry Candles in the Honey Buttered Rolls scent, can you? Smell it? Do you have the smell-a-blog feature installed on your computer? I hope so...divine, huh?

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Random-ness...

...random things to ponder? Yes, my mind is full of random-ness tonight. There are more than a few times a year that I am really focused and driven in one or two specific areas. On the flip side, there are many more times a year that I am not particularly focused or driven at all, but living my life in random-ness. My mind floats in various directions and wanders aimlessly about with no final destination in mind. I think about things...this problem, that situation, their circumstances, my emotions, his passions, our goals, my failures, our dreams, their futures, his pain, her...you get the drift, right??? I have total random-ness of thought. Wouldn't it be great if I could focus enough tonight to write about a single topic of spiritual interest or describe a recent family event in detail? But, tonight, all you get is random-ness. For instance, I have not felt very well the last couple of days - it always distracts me when I don't feel well. I have even noticed in my prayer life that I am often distracted - and until recently - I thought this was a failure on my part during prayer. But, I have discovered that it is very possible that my random distractions - thoughts that enter my mind during prayer - may actually be the Spirit's way of guiding me in prayer. When I am resolute in prayer - focused - trying to stay in tune with God, and then have a random thought enter that I used to think was solely from Satan himself to distract me - may actually be the Holy Spirit's guidance to refocus my prayer time. I have found now that those random thoughts I have - things I need to get done, people in my life, worries, distractions - are actually the things I need to be praying about at that particular time. They are the REAL concerns of my heart that are worthy of prayer - not the formalities that I pretend to be praying alot of the time. Yes, you read correctly - I struggle with prayer! I practice it almost continually, but again struggle with prayer. But, I believe so strongly in prayer that I don't give up. Other random thoughts passing through my aching head...

-halloween costumes for all three children are ordered and on their way;
-need to send my state occupational therapy license renewal in this week;
-I am grateful for getting to come home a little early from work today;
-looking forward to the Fall Festival of Marriage in Oct.;
-disappointed my diet is not going so well this week;
-potty training my almost 3 year old;
-need to get the boys Cub Scout manuals and uniforms bought;
-concern for my friend who just had surgery;
-feeling like I can't ever catch up, get everything done, be everything that everyone needs me to be;
-considering God's call to ministry for my husband and where this may or may not lead;
-laundry;

...just the tip of the iceberg I guess -
there is so much more underneath - below the surface of
a life lived to be real but in reality being so artificial
- only allowing folks to see what's above the water and not beneath...
I need to get real!

Sunday, September 21, 2008

On this Sunday, we are thankful for...

On our way home from lunch today, we were talking about how grateful we were for the life God has given us and the blessings He has so mercifully given to us to enjoy. Thus - an idea was born...making my quiet Sunday blogging time a time to focus on what we as a family are grateful for. Please understand that I am always thankful for my relationship with Christ, my husband, my children and my church family. However, we are surrounded with so many other awesome pleasures of creation to enjoy. My plan is to highlight 3-5 of them each Sunday afternoon as the Lord allows...so here goes.
I am thankful for pumpkins, fall displays, the color orange, and cooler temperatures.
I am thankful for Abigail's little smocked dress she wore to church this morning - absolutely adorable...I truly enjoy this stage in her life when we can choose such sweet little dresses for her...

I am thankful that Mike has had such a great teaching career. He has been teaching elementary and secondary music, band and choir for 13 years. When I asked him why he was thankful that he had been a teacher, he said...
"because it has made me a better father."

I am thankful this day!

Friday, September 19, 2008

This deserves an explanation!

It is not a great idea to let a 2.5 year old little girl with big hair play with a Thomas the Train battery operated Jet Engine. She pushed the "go" button while she was holding it on her head - thus the picture, which was actually taken after mommy got about 2/3 of the hair out of the wheels. Truly a mess! On a brighter note...
We are STILL celebrating our success with the big girl bed. The lullabies are her absolute favorite. She just goes right off to sleep. I am so glad for her!
We are planning on staying home tomorrow. Mike is going to cut grass and study tomorrow. I am finishing up continuing education classes online, cleaning house, doing laundry and spending time with my great kids. We are actually watching 'Monsters, Inc.' right now and are all 5 on the couch. So, cozy...
Jonah just said, "Mommy do you have to go work tomorrow?" I said, "Nope! I will be home with you all day!" Then...he just smiled...I don't know anyone I'd rather be with than my husband and my children.
Home is a very sweet place.

Monday, September 15, 2008

SisterSong


Well, friends and neighbors,
I have found the trick tonight to getting a strong-willed 2 1/2 year old little girl
to go to sleep in her own room in her big girl bed. Just
click on the picture above
and it will take you to the link to order this incredible C.D. which sings
lullabies with the child's name
inserted into the songs. Abby was so intrigued with the music
and she has stayed in her bed - at least for a short while.
So far, she has been there for one hour without getting up.
She may not stay all night, but at least it is a start!
The songs are beautiful and very Christ-focused.
I highly recommend it as a gift for a new baby
- - or an old one who just can't get to sleep!

Update: It is 6;00 a.m. and Abby slept ALL night in her big girl bed!
I had almost forgotten what a full-night's sleep was...

Saturday, September 13, 2008

picture of a frazzled woman...


Well, here it is...this was a photograph taken of me this week!
What a sight I have been.
How do I begin to tell you what an incredibly WILD week we have had.
Let me see if I can explain:

-sick baby all week
-CRAZY work week
-tons of meetings at church
-phone ringing off the hook
-helping Mike study
-doctor's appointments
-Mike having to perform at Board meeting
-Cub Scout meeting
-Mike preparing for ordination council
-being on a diet (see weight loss journal at bottom of right sidebar)
-making and working through several "To Do" Lists
-and much, much more! (believe it or not!)

I actually suppose that 'frazzled' doesn't even begin to describe the kind of week I've had. I have determined that trying to be all-things to all-people is an exhausting venture. However, I must admit that it has been nice to be so needed this week. It seemed that everywhere I turned, I wasn't just existing, but that I was working on important issues, helping others that I love and making a difference in the many roles that I carry. It is nice to be needed!

Today, however, is Saturday...what a beautiful word...let me say it again...Sat-ur-day...let us take a brief moment to discover this word again! What a beautiful concept. Last night, as I tied up some loose ends and began to TRY to wind down, I thought about Saturday. I just couldn't wait to go to bed, wake up and it be Saturday. You see, we don't have to leave our home today. We can be at home, rest, get refocused, settle down a little, calm our spirit, and just be...right?
Well, until my mind starting racing again -- need to catch the laundry up, clean the microwave, vacuum, put Abby's bedrails on her big girl bed, clean the porch, finish helping Mike study, spend precious time with my children, mop the kitchen floor...and so much more.
So much for my Saturday hiatus! But, it is so nice to be needed.
I love my frazzled life.

I do think, however, that this evening, I will go to the garage and pull down my boxes of fall decorations. I so love this time of year. While many love to see the spring flowers come and are rejuvenated by the summer sun, ole' Melisa longs for fall...cooler weather, pumpkins, falling leaves, scarecrows, mums...I just love it all!
Have a delightful Saturday!

Wednesday, September 10, 2008



Sunday, September 7, 2008

How beautiful!

This morning, I felt so incredibly blessed - and humbled - to be this little boy's mother. While preparing for his baptism, he said, "Mom, this is my day, isn't it?" I thought, "If you only knew!"

My handsome boy was so small that instead of a baptismal robe,
he was baptized in a recycled Christmas play angel costume...

Prayer time before the baptism -
Praise God we had 5 baptismal candidates today!

Teach me to pray, Lord!

Michael's first baptism experience - his oldest son.
We were so excited that over 20 of our family members attended
church with us today to help us celebrate Isaac's commitment to Christ.

Lord, I praise you for what you have done in the life of my boys.
They love you so much and have more faith in you than I have at times.
Let me learn from them, Father.
Thanks for the blessing of this day!



Saturday, September 6, 2008

Exciting Times!

We are so excited to announce that our oldest son, Samuel Isaac, is going to be baptized in the morning! It is absolutely the most wonderful day for us as parents - the day we longed for before we ever met our darling children. All of our hopes and dreams for them are wrapped up in the desire to see them follow Jesus Christ - no matter what else they may choose. Isaac is a courageous little boy. He loves the Lord with all his heart. He truly understands what he is doing tomorrow morning and is so excited that his family will be there to see him be baptized.

And, Mike is going through some very exciting times as well. Not only does he get to baptize his oldest son tomorrow, but he is looking toward his own ordination into the ministry next Sunday night as well. He is anxiously awaiting his church's commendation into ministry. His seminary studies are going very well and he eagerly anticipates a day when he will be in full-time ministry. For now, however, as the Lord is molding him and shaping him, he continues to teach elementary school music, serve as the Worship Leader and Pastor of Children's Ministries on a volunteer basis. It is so exciting for me to see him learning and eager to grow in the grace and knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ. I told him the other night that he never looks more handsome than when he is studying - Bible in hand, books and commentaries spread all over the floor, and writing about his passion - the Word. In my eyes, this is true masculinity!

I am so very grateful to God for all He has blessed me with in my life. I can hardly wait to see what lies around the bend...

who knows?

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Frugality

Mike and I have experienced the joys (and struggles) of being on a detailed budget now for one and half years. We have tried various budgeting types over the years, but the one that finally seemed easy enough for us to stick to was the Total Money Makeover system by Dave Ramsey. I must admit after listening to his radio program from time to time and reading his book, the budgeting system that he provides is nothing short of common sense - but sometimes I have to see common sense written down in black and white before I assimilate it into my thinking pattern. We have been so pleased with the results of being on a budget. It has taught us so much about how to handle money, how to talk about money and how to make our money work harder for us. We still have a lot we want to do, but we sure have come a long way from where we started eleven years ago.
There are times, though, that being on a budget is not so fun - the times that we can't do something that "everyone else is doing," or when we have to say "no" or "wait" to something that we are eager to have or do. In actuality, it is not that we can't do things or can't have things, but it is the fact that we have made the choice to be disciplined in this area of our lives. We are also aware that to some, it may not make complete sense. But, we have quit trying to make eveyone understand what we do - we just do what we believe God has called us to do. I do agree with Dave Ramsey when he says, "If people are making fun of you when you are on a budget, then you are on the right track. They are probably broke people who just don't get it and borrow money for everything."
Therefore, we go camping in a Coleman tent among many who have big, beautiful RVs. We don't have cable t.v. - but love to watch movies and keep up with the news via the internet. We need a new living room suit, but we are waiting for just the right deal to come along and buy it with cash. I have learned to be a great discount an clearance shopper - and it is totally fun!
Now, I haven't reached the frugality levels of some. I don't make my own laundry soap. I don't crochet my own Swiffer cleaning rags instead of buying the disposable ones. I don't use cloth diapers or wipes - I use disposable. I only pack my lunch for work about 1/2 of the time and I don't always carpool to work although Mike can drive me there easily each day on his way to school.
However, the frugal life does intrigue me.
I enjoy reading about ways to be more frugal and am always up for a good deal.
Maybe I need to polish up my crocheting skills...
I just spent $11.88 last night on a 24 pack of Swiffer cleaning pads last night at Wal-Mart!


Monday, September 1, 2008

The big reveal...before and after...


Much better, huh? Still a work in progress...
maybe done by next weekend if I do one chair per night.


 
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